I'm starting my new year with my birthday, this year. It's more personal.
My vision with computer screens is still not great, but the migraines have stopped. So I'm making online resolutions and sharing them here--because they may relate to you.
1) I will be online every night (barring going out, migraine, or homework) except for Friday nights. This means I will be on AIM using the username the mirkat.
2) I will be messaging, emailing, or otherwise contacting people I've fallen out of touch with--or even defriended--and miss. I'll be letting people know how I feel in those emails, as well as how I felt, and I will be honest.
Honesty is not an attempt at emotional blackmail.
I was accused of that in an in email once, and a counselor I discussed it with said the best hing I could do was to distance myself from the person who made the statement, as s/he had issues of his/her own that s/he needed to deal with and was not. The result in such a case, for me, would probably eventually be a painful one. (The counselor was right in every respect.)
The point of sending these messages is that I miss that person and want to re-strengthen or resume our relationship--in some cases, I'm not even sure what happened, except that the person just stopped talking to me.
But, again, for each person I message in some form--and this will take some time for me to get to everyone I want to, I know--I am doing so because I still think about that person, miss them, pray for them, wish them well, and would like to resume our relationship.
3) I will become active in fandom again.
- This means: RP, fanfics, playlists, fanmixes, reading comics, watching TV, reading new books, etc.
- Recs in all of those areas (tv shows, books, comics) are appreciated.
4) I will read my f-lists again, as often as possible.
Given my health issues, probably not every day.
I will still miss posts. I will still have days I read your posts but cannot type to leave a comment.
But I am doing my best to connect with you and your life. Please, help me do so. And do the same with mine.
5) I will be posting book reviews that will be copied from a wordpress blog that I'm setting up as soon as I decide on a domain name. Something short and sweet. Mirkat.net is for fandom; I need something that's not for professional things, but could be found by an employer without embarrassment.
Suggestions are appreciated. (Think dooce.com, mirkat.net, that sort of short thing, but something that works for me for general blogging, reviews, etc.)
There. That looks manageable, no?
My vision with computer screens is still not great, but the migraines have stopped. So I'm making online resolutions and sharing them here--because they may relate to you.
1) I will be online every night (barring going out, migraine, or homework) except for Friday nights. This means I will be on AIM using the username the mirkat.
2) I will be messaging, emailing, or otherwise contacting people I've fallen out of touch with--or even defriended--and miss. I'll be letting people know how I feel in those emails, as well as how I felt, and I will be honest.
Honesty is not an attempt at emotional blackmail.
I was accused of that in an in email once, and a counselor I discussed it with said the best hing I could do was to distance myself from the person who made the statement, as s/he had issues of his/her own that s/he needed to deal with and was not. The result in such a case, for me, would probably eventually be a painful one. (The counselor was right in every respect.)
The point of sending these messages is that I miss that person and want to re-strengthen or resume our relationship--in some cases, I'm not even sure what happened, except that the person just stopped talking to me.
But, again, for each person I message in some form--and this will take some time for me to get to everyone I want to, I know--I am doing so because I still think about that person, miss them, pray for them, wish them well, and would like to resume our relationship.
3) I will become active in fandom again.
- This means: RP, fanfics, playlists, fanmixes, reading comics, watching TV, reading new books, etc.
- Recs in all of those areas (tv shows, books, comics) are appreciated.
4) I will read my f-lists again, as often as possible.
Given my health issues, probably not every day.
I will still miss posts. I will still have days I read your posts but cannot type to leave a comment.
But I am doing my best to connect with you and your life. Please, help me do so. And do the same with mine.
5) I will be posting book reviews that will be copied from a wordpress blog that I'm setting up as soon as I decide on a domain name. Something short and sweet. Mirkat.net is for fandom; I need something that's not for professional things, but could be found by an employer without embarrassment.
Suggestions are appreciated. (Think dooce.com, mirkat.net, that sort of short thing, but something that works for me for general blogging, reviews, etc.)
There. That looks manageable, no?
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